Start dating after marriage breakup
With matters of the heart, it’s just not that simple.
By now you might feel the impulse to shout at your computer screen “just give me the number of weeks it’s going to take!
“…don’t kill me, but I’ve got two Match dates lined up this week…” (cue my loud sighing) We all know deep down that dating too soon after a breakup is a bad idea. The pain of a broken heart activates the same parts of the brain as clinical depression.
It causes us real, physical suffering that can last weeks or months, and the lure of new romantic love is one of the strongest antidotes.
” which is quickly followed by “how soon can I get back out there?
” Knowing my stance on giving yourself enough time to heal from heartbreak, my newly-single friends will often shy away from telling me they’ve begun dating again.
Feeling anger and deep sadness is normal when our hearts have just been broken, and giving ourselves the space to sit with these emotions is healthy.
Though we all will wrestle with the impulse of stuffing those pesky emotions down as deep as possible.
And many have the same questions for me, their therapist and personal breakup coach: “how long is the pain going to last?
If I could invent a pill that would cure heartbreak, I would be a rich woman.
So what are the risks of reactivating that dating profile too soon? These also double as signs and symptoms that your emotional wounds still have more healing to do before a healthy new relationship can take shape: Now I’m not saying there’s not any merit to those structured singles events that have you sitting down with ten guys for five minutes at a time.
What I am saying is that if you are consistently going for quantity over quality week after week, you are probably not quite ready to get back out there for real.