Dating other people with herpes
Coupled with a good understanding of herpes and a frank and open discussion with your partner, this can mean a very manageable relationship with herpes.
Bottom-line: Is a long term relationship with someone with herpes a life sentence for protected sex?
That’s a sad reality that you and your partner will have to face. Do you search back in your memory for which doorknob you touched that might have been infected or which person sneezed in your vicinity? So, blame and origin is irrelevant, because those things are seen as unfortunate but part of being human – our bodies are resilient but not infallible, and the potential for infection and risk is present in almost everything we do.
But you don’t have to bring that shit directly into your relationship. The only reason we care about who gave it to us and when is because we shame people for how they got it – by having sex or engaging in sexual activities.
You find the lifestyle and sex life that fits your comfort level.
In the same way that no birth control method reduces the chances of pregnancy to zero, couples eventually find the right balance between caution and calculated risk.
Or is contracting herpes from your partner going to be an inevitability—not a matter of if, but when? I'm not going to sit here and guarantee that you'll never get herpes, either from your long term girlfriend or from a random hookup.
There are medications that can shorten or prevent outbreaks and reduce the chances of transmitting herpes to another person.So, yes, you can contract herpes from someone whether or not they are having an outbreak.Staying in a relationship where you are negative and they are positive seems like playing with fire.However they, too, will retain the virus for life and be contagious.That’s a lot to parse, but boil it down to this: far more than 1 in 6 Americans between the age of 14 and 49 have HSV-2.