Dating a separated woman with a child
I got messaged by a girl on a dating site who's almost exactly my type (yes that means she's hot looking too - how'd that happen?! Anyway, she's 24 and has a kid who's almost a year old. My advice is to not do it unless you have the intention of eventually settling down.
If i was to meet this girls for a date or two, what attitude should i have to the fact she's got a child if it comes up in conversation? I'll never do it again because being a step parent sucks major ass.
The beauty is that the kid is only 1, you won't have to be a role model or daddy figure for a long time, so if it doens't work out, no big deal.
Ask about the father, that can be a BIG issue in the relationship if you are to consider dating her for any length of time, do they have a good relationship in regards to the child, or does it cause her a lot of stress and pain...
She had a kid (step brother) and didn't take her birth control and got pregnant with my half brother to entrap my dad into marrying her. Single parent women are usually quite determined to settle down so make sure birth control is your responsibility and you keep your condoms hidden so holes can't be punched into them until you are absolutely certain she isn't going to try anything (should take more than a year).
I know I probably shouldn't give advice like this since I'm 19 and don't have personal experience with this kind of situation but whatever lol.
on a side note...imagine how hard it would be for you to find an understanding women if you were a single father of 1 or 2 children.
wouldn't you want the girl to get to know you for you first? Too many women out there that don't have kids, that aren't looking for a step-dad to raise another man's child. There's just too much drama there, why waste both your time? Too many women out there that don't have kids, that aren't looking for a step-dad to raise another man's child. There's just too much drama there, why waste both your time?
Most guys disregard chicks that have kids, even very hot chicks, so when you show interest...why did they split - women who split and have a kid get some serious complexes and baggage, that YOU will get to deal with...far more than the normal chick who feels she's been burned in the past. it was strange at first, but at the age we're at, it's not so uncommon...somewhat right - but it really depends on the kids age...if the girl is 24 and has a 7 year old its different than a 24 y.o with a 1 month/year old. Even a 3/4/5 year old is different than a 1 year old.