27 year old woman dating 21 year old guy
Instead, men report maximum acceptable partner ages that hover around their own age through their 40s.After 40, maximum age preferences for most categories remain lower than their own age.But fantasies, of course, are not generally subject to public scrutiny and the rule is only designed to calculate what is socially acceptable —so this discrepancy is not necessarily a failure of the rule.For rule-related involvement (relationships), 60-year-old men are stating that the minimum acceptable age is around 40, which does map much more closely to the rule’s predictions.According to the rule, for example, a 30-year-old should be with a partner who is at least 22, while a 50-year-old’s dating partner must be at least 32 to not attract (presumed) social sanction. Does it match our scientific understanding of age-related preferences for dating? People reported distinct age preferences for marriage; a serious relationship; falling in love; casual sex; and sexual fantasies. Based on the figures Buunk and colleagues (2000) provided (and thus the numbers are only informed approximations), I replotted their data superimposing the max and min age ranges defined by the half-your-age-plus-7 rule.Now we can see how well the rule corresponds with people’s reported acceptable ages.So for a 24-year-old, the upper age limit would be 34 (17 * 2). How well does the rule reflect scientific evidence for age preferences?With some quick math, the rule provides a minimum and maximum partner age based on your actual age that, if you choose to follow it, you can use to guide your dating decisions. It lets you chart acceptable age discrepancies that adjust over the years. Researchers Buunk and colleagues (2000) asked men and women to identify the ages they would consider when evaluating someone for relationships of different levels of involvement.
15yr age gap here, so not quite as big a gap, but similar. 13 yrs later, married for ten and four dc, youngest is 3 mths old.
Nothing 'wrong' about it IMO, in fact we couldn't be better suited. I have never had a happy relationship with a guy my own age. He looks at least ten years younger than he actually is, and he thought I was rather older than I am. We had a connection instantly and hit it off straight away.
We have our problems, of course, but none of them down to our ages. I had a similar age gap and was happily married until I was widowed, for 22 years, as said, age gap relationships can work.
You can see that men are basically operating by the rule for minimum age preferences for marital relationships (blue bars) and serious dating relationships (yellow bars).
Those age preferences consistently hover around the values denoted by the rule (the black line).